Dating

Dating can be charming, exciting, and occasionally absurd—sometimes all before the second glass of wine. Here, we talk about attraction, standards, pacing, mixed signals, choosing well, and the small decisions that can make a surprisingly big difference. The point isn’t to become better at playing the game. It’s to become better at recognizing what deserves your time, your energy, and your very good shoes.

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You dont' need another sign. This is the sign→ So much for retiring from love→ Is it Ok to date someone when you know it won’t last?→ Beyond the dating hamster wheel: when your “type” keeps taking you to the same place→ Not his “Type”? Good. You’re doing something right→ You saw the red flags—you just hoped they’d disappear→ When “too busy” somehow has time for everything else→ The social ballet of unwanted romantic attention→ The dark side of chemistry: when a new face plays an old role→ The strange disappearing act of being stood up→ Always replies, never initiates: a very convenient arrangement→ Queens do not chase!→ What is your ideal woman like? An anonymous poll of men→ When early attraction arrives with a marching band→ He wants you. Unfortunately, that is not the whole menu→ He sent an unsolicited nude. What exactly was that supposed to accomplish?→ When rejection hurts less than being kept around→ He thinks you’re amazing. Slight problem: he barely knows you→ The first date went well. Now everybody is pretending to be casual→ Your relationship lives in your phone. It seems quite comfortable there. → The three ways rejection shows up→ Your mind has already decided what happened→ Sometimes one small comment changes everything→ Making the first move is not the same as doing all the moving→ Some women keep getting proposals. It may not be why you think→ Three dates, one disappearance, and far too many theories→ Licensed counselor - Tracy Redman - answers your questions→ The psychological opera of early dating→ Boundaries I: The things women are supposed to put up with→ Boundaries II: What a boundary actually is→ Your Boundaries are not where you say they are→ You thought he chose you. He had messaged everyone → Casual sounds lovely until he starts acting casual → A loser rarely looks like one at first→ Dating is like boutique shopping: sometimes they don’t like what they picked and want to return it→ You thought it was a table for two. Apparently, there were extra chairs→ When his words come with fog→ He has the house. He still wants to tour the neighborhood→ The theater of cheating: the rehearsal starts long before the affair→ You thought you had a relationship. Apparently, you had a timeshare→ When you’re lonely, almost any train looks like the right one→ Bad boys feel exciting for the same reason casinos do→ The romantic lowball offer→ One-sided dancing: when you want him more than he wants you→ Attraction is like perfume: what you notice first is not what lingers→ Of course the relationship fits him. You keep altering it→ If you need an antenna to detect his interest, there may not be much of a signal→ 12 Observations about dating, love and other human peculiarities→ Hotel Perhaps: excellent ambiance, no answers→ The dating casino never closes→ The man who was very interested until you said “not yet”→ He is probably not your future husband→ The rare shy male, observed in his natural habitat→ One little flare on the horizon→ Nothing has happened yet, but the forecast is already terrible→ He is grown. Recess is still in session→ Congratulations, you’re exclusive. To what exactly?→ The profile promised an ocean view→ It was one date, not a peace treaty→ Five seasons in, and the plot still hasn’t moved→ Three dates in and you’ve already bought the house→ The relationship closet is full→ When 2 + 2 keeps coming out as 5→ If dating him requires a project manager, something has gone wrong→ His love is not on backorder→ He ordered dinner. You brought the last ten years→ The fine art of pretending you care less→ He isn’t choosing. He’s sampling.→ You got exactly what you asked for. How annoying→ He keeps visiting the relationship, but never moves in → Meet the Passenger Prince→ Your intuition has been giving you that look→ You like him. Welcome to finishing school→ His profile is immaculate. Please don’t open the closet yet→ He thought it was a date. It was an audition→ Your boundaries were excellent until you liked him→ The ocean is full of fish. Your inbox has proof→ He is not having a bad week. This is the climate→ Nothing has happened yet, but your mind has already made the movie → You thought you were dating. He found the scoreboard→ First dates have a scent. Some linger for all the wrong reasons→ Coupleland looks better on the brochure→ He asked for your number and apparently the fireworks ended there→ You wanted a good man and somehow he needed to be five stars→ You thought you were waiting for his divorce. You were living in the waiting room→ Dating is awkward because nobody gives you the choreography→ You had three dates and somehow he has a reserved seat at Christmas→ The perfect relationship looks wonderful behind glass and nobody lives there→ His ex is gone, but the revolving door is still doing excellent business→ You kept saying “it’s fine” until the cork hit the ceiling→ You found out his personality type and suddenly knew everything→ How quickly we think we know someone after only a few dates→ Classic lies men tell: The Museum of Magnificent Explanations→ The man in the brochure→ The Great Romantic Fitting Room→ The ‘I Miss You’ championships→ You went looking for a normal man. The search has become a little peculiar.→ You pressed fast-forward. Love is still playing at normal speed.→ You were perfectly fine until the mirrors started giving opinions→ He has a past. The baggage carousel keeps moving→ Playing hard to get: the curious case of the Vanishing Woman→ How to spot Mr. Unavailable: the beautiful show home with no keys→ What’s in it for me? The dinner party behind every romance→ Are you ready to date? The pool looked lovely until someone suggested swimming→ Flirting mistakes: when chemistry hires a director→ Is he giving you mixed signals? Welcome to the Romantic Weather Center→ After two dates, you’re already three years ahead→ Dating by the stars: when the zodiac knows him before you do→ Relationship responsibility: the departure lounge between ghosting and goodbye→ The trouble with bringing the future on a date→