3 types of rejections
There are 3 types of rejection – verbal, non-verbal, and shady. It is to your advantage to figure out what is going on and eject yourself from the situation as soon as possible.
Why it is important. It is important for your sanity, self-esteem, and well-being. Plus, who the hell wants to dwell on ‘maybes’ and ‘what-ifs’ agonizing in pain? Nope, not chasing the pie in the sky. No way!
Ok, ladies, here we go – three types of rejections.
“Hey, I think you are nice and stuff, but you are not my type”, “ You are a great person, but I do not feel it”
Heard these before?
We are all for fairness and no games, but when it comes to straight forward rejections, most of us still complain and give them a hard time – we get angry, verbally abusive, and plain crazy. Some of us turn into stalkers and do other embarrassing things.
And still, in my opinion, this is the best way to reject someone. Why? No games and no time wasted guessing. The healing and moving on process starts right away.
I know, I know, this whole thing really stinks, but I think they still deserve credit for being honest with us.
This one is very common during crush situations (when nothing has even started yet!) and during early stages of dating.
This is when a one-sided fling feels (to you) like there is potential, like there is hope of something bigger happening, except that it never does. It happens because the other party chooses to either never approach you in the first place or silently disappears hoping ‘you will get the message’.
They sense your interest, but are not willing to reject you verbally. They really hope you will get the clue and bug off.
Come on now, ladies! How much of a green light and interest from you does a guy need to approach you or to schedule a second date? How much encouragement from you does a dude need to move forward with the friendly, interested and lovely you??
They do not move forward because they are not interested and are too chicken to voice it out. Disappearing through the back door with their tail between their legs is so much easier!
These guys are one big joke and as soon as you sense this type of rejection – please, PLEASE cross them out and move on immediately.
Please recognize that you are being rejected non-verbally. Unlike with the above verbal rejection, there won’t be words or explanations of any kind and it is your job to see it for what it is.
Please do everything you can to protect yourself from pain. That’s too much emotional clutter to deal with. Recognizing the situation and moving on asap should be your top priority here. Cut them off!
Oh yeah, don't we all know what it is like?
Shady rejection or aka a situation with mixed signals is the worst. Unlike with the previous non-verbal rejection when a person has the decency to walk away, this one will stay and subject you to a great dose of mindf*ckery, pain, confusion, over analyzing and obsessing.
It is a yo-yo situation when the right hand does not know what the left one is doing.
One day they are all over you and are so freaking in love and you are like ‘I’m so in love, I found The One”, and the next – act like nothing happened.
One day they act really interested, and the other – not so much.
They may disappear-reappear, date others behind your back, give excuses as to why commitment cannot be possible at this time, complain, call you needy, shower you with gifts, cut your dates short, send cute sms, call off dates, overpromise and underdeliver, future-fake, act lovey-dovey one day and cold the next, forget your birthday – remember your birthday, etc.
Simply admit that it is not working out. Simply admit it.
Victims of players, womanizers, jerks, commitment-phobics, immature and other types of unavailable and ambivalent men often experience this.
These men are the masters of giving hope. And if you were to ask me – a fake hope, I would say. It is all fake, ladies. These clowns are dangerous for our heart and mind; they are as popular as a fart in an elevator and yet we still fall prey to them.
Listen to this zombie-monologue. Does it sound like you?
“…I know and I am positive… It feels like the relationship is around the corner… if only they did this and that… but we are almost there. And the way they looked at me the other night? Oh that look.. it only belongs to those who are in love. I know they love me. And, don't ask me how, I just know… I will wait. We have something special together…”
Although tempting, there's no need to analyze their behavior or try to figure them out. No need, because you are the one with unmet needs here and you need to take action.
Please face the truth: you are being rejected and their shady behavior is the proof. They are not interested in having a 1x1 committed relationship with you and no, they definitely do not act like your future husband. Let it be your wake up call.
I say, ditch this shady clown. He makes you feel rejected 90% of the time anyway. Yep, send them to Dumpsville; send them to Dumpsville to castrate sheep or something… who knows? And why would you care frankly? You have much better things to do!
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