Breakups

Breakups can make even a very sensible woman believe that one more conversation, one more explanation, or one perfectly worded text will somehow tie the whole thing up with a satin ribbon. Usually, it won’t. Here, we talk about letting go, resisting the temptation to go backward, rebuilding your confidence, and making peace with the fact that some endings are not failures at all. They are exits—and sometimes very elegant ones.

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Who put your ex in charge of your self-esteem? → You didn’t lose yourself in the relationship. You auditioned for it → The little things we do to feel better that somehow make us feel worse → The museum of the ex is quietly losing visitors → Your memory has been keeping some very strange files → Reaching out to your ex should not require mission control → The three ways rejection shows up → When rejection hurts less than being kept around → Licensed counselor - Tracy Redman - answers your questions → Look who decided to call → You broke up with a narcissist. Apparently, His Majesty missed the announcement → Will my toxic ex ever be happy again? → He hasn’t called in six months. Why do I still want to text him? → Breaking up with a married man: what do you even say? → He cheated. Suddenly every memory has a second meaning → He wants to break up—until you agree → Apparently, he had been rehearsing the breakup → You gave it away. Now you want it back → When the party is over and he still won’t leave → The relationship with the revolving door → The breakup ended, but you’re still rewriting it → How not to make a breakup hurt more than it already does → When a breakup mistakes itself for the end of the world → Affordable online counseling service with a licensed professional → Your ex may come back in several versions, but the door can stay closed → One more conversation with your ex is rarely just one → One customer left. Please do not close the restaurant → The cozy little thoughts that get you through a breakup → When someone walks away in the middle of the journey → Are you dating him or watering him back to life? → Getting over a breakup is mostly an argument with your memory → When forty-five minutes starts looking like fine dining → You can leave the party even if he thinks it’s going well → Breaking news: your ex just called → The relationship is over. Why is the gift shop still open? → Grand reopening: your ex would like another chance → No Contact is like giving up cake with a fork still in your hand → New and improved! Your ex says he has changed → Sorry, we’re closed: when you’re finally done with him → The perfect first date that never got a second episode → Return to sender: your ex is back. Again → The relationship ended. Why does he still have full access? → No contact or disappearance: did he say goodbye first? → He wants to be fired, but he wants you to do it → Three breakup truths that feel wrong before they feel obvious → Your ex has a birthday and suddenly you have a decision to make → Apparently your ex now lives in the cereal aisle → You threw the thought away. Your brain brought him back → You are allowed to check out of a one-star relationship → When a breakup somehow turns into a puzzle → If he comes back, what exactly is coming back with him? → He left the relationship but somehow kept the parking space → Why are you inviting a terrible houseguest back for brunch? → You can move on without labeling every box → You started no contact and somehow ended up waiting for magic → Did you scare him away or did he just run? → He stopped replying and somehow you are still on the line → Your ex was meh until somebody else wanted him → The urge to text your ex is not an emergency → The man who was here on Thursday and gone by Monday → The relationship ended years ago, so why is your ex still calling? → Be done with your dead-end relationship! → Rejection is God's protection → How to break up with no regrets → His secret obsession (make him addicted to you!) - e-Course → Letting go of a failed relationship → The call from your ex → Letting him down gently → 3 wrong assumptions about the No Contact rule → Do you feel guilty about going No Contact? → Why he disappeared - e-Course → What is 'being in love' or why breakups hurt → Is it possible to hate someone you used to love? → What to do when he breaks up with you → Post breakup: does he miss me? →