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Why would they say “you are too good for me”?

You are too good for me means ‘I am too bad for you’ or ‘I do not deserve you’.

It is an ugly compliment to receive because what it means is that you are not what they were hoping for.

You are too good for me means:

• I am not looking for a committed relationship, but since you seem like you are, I may have to play along to have my cake and eat it too.

• I am only looking to get laid and it does not seem like you are that kind of a girl.

• I do not like you as much as you think I do. We have no future.

• I am a sore loser and a complete disappointment. I lied about my income, the size of my manhood, my status, and other things. I am scared and it will be just a matter of time before the truth is discovered and I get dumped.

• I have emotional and mental issues and I am too insecure to date such a woman like you.

They are an iceberg man with hidden intentions and thoughts under dark muddy water. Treating them nice disturbs the mud which then spills out in the ‘you are too good for me’ form.

Yep, nice treatment makes them feel uncomfortable and guilty.

So basically, yes, with all the cards on the table, you are too good for them indeed and you do not need them.

P.S. If you feel like you need to talk to someone because your situation is too unique and most of the stuff you read on the internet is too generic and not helpful, then I would personally like to recommend you this affordable online counseling service. You will not be disappointed.

 

He Sent an Unsolicited Nude. What Exactly Was That Supposed to Accomplish?

An unsolicited photo of his genitals is not a deep romantic mystery.

It is a man standing by the water with very questionable bait, throwing it out and hoping something bites.

No flowers. No charm. No clever conversation.

Just *plop.*

Maybe he thinks you will be impressed. Maybe he wants to see how sexual you are. Maybe he sends the same photo to several women and waits to see who responds.

Or maybe he simply has terrible judgment.

Why he sent it may vary. What he did is not complicated.

The funny part is the confidence behind it. Somewhere, a man looked at that photo and thought, *Yes. This should move things along nicely.*

And perhaps, in his mind, it will.

The fisherman does not need every fish to bite. He only needs one.

One woman ignores him. Another blocks him. Another sends the photo to her best friend with several question marks. Eventually, perhaps, someone responds the way he hoped.

That is why the wide-net approach works for him.

Very little effort. Very little romance. Just a lot of casting.

Now, this does not automatically tell you everything about him. He may want sex. He may also want a relationship. He may be nice in other parts of his life and still have spectacularly bad ideas about flirting.

People are complicated.

But this part is simple: he sent you something sexual that you did not ask for.

That tells you something.

And I would not spend too much time wondering what he “really meant.” Sometimes behavior arrives already translated.

You also do not need to write “Please do not send me nude photos” on your dating profile, as though basic manners require a warning label.

If someone sends one anyway, they have already given you useful information.

You do not need to admire the bait.

You do not need to explain why you are not biting.

Sometimes you do not need to study the fisherman at all.

The bait tells you plenty.