How to identify a loser

How to identify a loser: since it may be common sense for some but not so for others, I have created a simple guide to make it easier for everyone.


If they call and text but never meet
consider them being a loser. True men know what they want and how to get it.

Ok, maybe they are not THAT interested or maybe there is somebody else. If this is the case, then what’s up with calling and texting YOU?

These are the signs of a person with only one foot in the dating relationship with you. Or maybe even just one toe!

They are either in it 100% or not. Anyone who is in it only 50 % or maybe just 2%, AND is not trying to bring it to 100%, is a loser.

Forget them. It is not your job to make them MORE interested, to psychoanalyze their motives or obsess over it.

Are you kidding me?

If they are inconsistent, unpredictable and are hard to pin down

Such behaviors may prompt us to chase, but I beg you not to.

Believe it or not, some messed-up men like to play hard to get. What a juvenile way to start a relationship!

Anything and anyone that appears to be moving AWAY from you (rather than TOWARDS you) should be crossed out on your calendar. No exceptions!

Yep, instead of analyzing and agonizing over their distant behavior, we eliminate them entirely. It is called ‘dating made easy’.

If they keep dating others

Now, this one drives me nuts.

So, here is a question to every woman out there: are you looking to date a man who dates others? Is this the best that you can get?

Who in their right mind would say “Yes” to this?

No one!

Do not feel bad about leaving an indecisive loser who can’t figure out what he wants and who he likes. It is a ladies buffet situation for him and a heartbreak for you. Why bother??

They are a loser if they treat you with disrespect

Men who treat us with disrespect make us feel inadequate, unattractive, unwanted, undesirable, unloved, humiliated, disappointed, hurt, lonely, unworthy, anxious and depressed.

Are you looking to feel inadequate, unattractive, unwanted, undesirable, unloved, humiliated, disappointed, hurt, lonely, unworthy, anxious and depressed when dating a man? No? Then do not date anyone who treats you with disrespect. It is that simple!

More on dating a loser – dating a loser vs. dating a winner - see here.


If you continue dating a loser, then you will end up being in a relationship with a loser.

As one would have imagined, things get complicated over time, and so do relationships with losers.

You may now want to have a couple of trusted girlfriends to call every time the guy does something stupid or disappointing.

They are a loser if your relationship does not move forward

Duhhh. Pure classic.

I wrote a lot of articles about it and even a guide here on how to make a man propose.

The bottom line: you state what you want (commitment, marriage etc) and give them the opportunity to deliver.

Staying with a loser for 5-10 years waiting, waiting, and waiting makes you kinda a loser too, you know…

They are a loser if they cheat on you or cheated in previous relationships

In my opinion every man who cheats on his woman is a weak man. There are a bunch of excuses, I know, BUT if you think about it, none of them make sense. They are all selfish, egoistical, pathetic, and wimpy excuses.

So, a man who cheats on his woman is a weak AND a selfish man too.

Just so you know, there are two types of behavior: loyal men who do not cheat but leave (when unhappy) and men who never leave but cheat non-stop.

A happy non-cheating man will never leave. A cheater will cheat no matter how happy or unhappy. It is out of your control!

They are a loser if you have to support them financially

This, of course, does not apply to temporary situations.

A man with no goals, no plans, no ambition, no drive to succeed is very bad news, ladies.

Now, add addictions of some sort, criminal past, babies (from another woman) lurking in the bushes and you've got a complete disaster on your hands.

They will become your responsibility to carry on like forever. Are you ready for this kind of burden?

If you take care of someone, feed and clean after them, AND if they are not your child or a disabled /elderly person, then they are your pet.

Losers seem to fit this category. Congratulations! They are your pet now!


Losers do not take breakups easily. Here is a separate article about it.

They are a loser if they keep coming back

Most people move on after breakups. A small percentage of people do not and require special assistance.

Nothing is out of the ordinary here except that losers are in a category of men who won’t work on the moving on process.

In fact, they will continue bugging you, even years after the breakup!

Ever received a strange call from someone you dated years or even decades ago? That’s what I am talking about.

They are a loser if they do not understand the reason(s) for a breakup

Believe it or not, such men do exist. You break up with them and they think/ask “What happened? Why??”

I just roll my eyes and move on. I just do not feel like explaining it the 100th time in a row or until I am blue in the face.

They will never ever get it.

If you keep breaking up with them over the same issue

They are a loser if they keep causing the same issue leading to multiple breakups (with you or previous women).

Non-losers at least try to fix what is broken. The losers, on the other hand, won’t even move a finger to change things.

No surprise here, actually. Losers rarely achieve anything in life or in relationships. Keep that in mind!

P.S. If you feel like you need to talk to someone because your situation is too unique and most of the stuff you read on the internet is too generic and not helpful, then I would personally like to recommend you this affordable online counseling service. You will not be disappointed.

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