Queens do not chase!

What’s up with that chasing game, ladies? Yes, you got it right – the GAME!

Chasing is a game, and here is why: anything that involves creative extra moves to get something is a game, at least in the dating world.

Chasing is a sneaky game because, deep down, we know that they are not into us (that’s why we keep making all those desperate moves). After all, if they were (into us) - none of this game would be happening.

And yet, we keep chasing, chasing, and chasing.

WHY?

Why do you keep chasing after someone who does not see you for the Queen you are?

AFFORDABLE PSYCHIC READING: Will it ever work out between us? Find out with a psychic reading from Psychic Source. 10 minutes for only $10. Choose from over 300 psychics who are available 24/7.

I get it; they may be giving you mixed signals and perhaps some hope. Or possibly there was a moment when you felt ‘for sure’ that ‘something’ exists between you two, but nothing has happened yet because…(add your 100th excuse here).

Look, I get the frustration, desperation, and pain you are going through, but here is the thing (ready?) – this whole painful situation is the hell of your own making.

What do you think will happen if you stop chasing them Today?

The sky will not fall, you will not die, and the sun will rise tomorrow as always. Life will continue, and you will be free from constant humiliation and rejection. That’s a big bonus added to the quality of your life in an instant!

Every time you send them an SMS and they do not respond, it implies rejection. Every time you suggest a meeting and they are like, ‘meh’—that's rejection, too. Every time it takes them a long time to return your call (or not to return at all)—that's rejection. No compliments? That's rejection. No quality time together? That's rejection. Them not initiating anything—that's a stinking rejection!

As long as you chase, you live in a world of rejection! It takes a lot of energy to make yourself feel like this.

Rest assured, the proud peacock – aka the one you chase – feels none of it. Resting on a shiny pedestal, totally lazy and ambivalent, he enjoys the attention… and guess what? He will take it all! Who wouldn't?? Who wouldn't take the attention given for free?

The proud peacock may not even know what the deal is and what all this hassle is about. All he knows is that he is the center of the Universe and that's all that matters. Hey, no complaints!

Do YOU feel like the center of the Universe…. or like a worthless piece of sh*t? Are you getting attention too? Maybe a half of it? Or perhaps a teeny-tiny bit of it? No? Then what is going on here? Definitely some sort of imbalance, isn’t it??

Ok, ladies, we have been talking about it for quite some time today, and I think it is time to come up with a verdict.

The Verdict is the following: you need to bring balance back between you two by removing the attention (adoration, admiration and other goodies) and giving them only as much as they give you, which means ZERO goodies from now on. Got it?

As soon as you stop giving them attention (aka stop chasing) a wonderful magic will take place in your life.

Look at this list of goodies!

No more feeling humiliated, worthless, and unattractive

No more anxiety over them not responding

No more feeling like you are stupid

No more constant initiation of contact and feeling weird about it

No more feeling like you are not good enough to date or to love

No more waiting for them to contact you

No more thoughts about multiple ‘why’-s

No more attempts to try to figure them out

No more sadness and

No more feeling of rejection 100% of the time!

Absolutely none of it, ladies!

That’s what I call a Healthy Balance in a relationship; and this applies to one-sided relationships too!

When you chase, you are in a one-sided relationship. But guess what? One sided, two sided, or whatever type of relationship it is, a human being doesn't deserve feeling sad, humiliated, unloved, anxious and rejected. This is very unfair!

‘But should I at least show them that I am interested” - the Queen asks?

Sure, yes! Letting them know you are interested erases the fear of rejection and creates a green light for them to proceed. It is up to them to take it from there.

If nothing happens after your initial ‘invitation’ – let it be your clue. Do not chase, do not stalk, and do not turn into a bunny-boiler. You are the Queen, remember?

You deserve flowers, a good time, compliments, sweet nothings whispered into your ear, and a lot of cute stuff. These will come in abundance from a person who adores you ’just because’. No games and no chasing will be needed. Mark my words!

P.S. If you feel like you need to talk to someone because your situation is too unique and most of the stuff you read on the internet is too generic and not helpful, then I would personally like to recommend you this affordable online counseling service. You will not be disappointed.