How long can a man juggle two women? I am tired of waiting. Will he ever make a choice?
Are you wondering how long can a man juggle two women? The simple answer is from several days to many years. It also depends on YOU.
Now, do not get me wrong, juggling two women at the same time is not easy. As time goes on, there is always a high risk of being found out.
Juggling two women at the same time takes a lot of time, skill, creativity, and patience. Eventually, there will come a moment when the man will have to choose.
However, if you are involved in a love triangle and waiting for that moment to come, then you are wasting your time.
Step into his shoes for a moment. He has two women who love him. Why should he change something? Sure he does not give a rat’s furry ass what those two women feel, but still. He is motivated to milk the situation for as long as it lasts. Can you blame him?
YOU have the power to break the triangle and force him to choose.
Simply leave. As soon as you leave he will be faced with a dilemma – you or her. He now knows that the ride on the gravy train is over, his ass is on fire and he needs to decide something quickly.
The strongest woman will win - the one who has dignity and is proud to leave. This fact elevates her worth in his eyes and naturally makes her more attractive.
But you knew it all, right?
“Yeah, you say. It is not the problem. The problem is the ability to leave in the first place. How do I leave the man that I love? “
How do you leave a man that you love? The man who loves someone else too and lies about it? The man who is selfish enough to keep the painful situation going as long as it suits his selfish needs? Yes, exactly, how do you leave ‘such’ a man. Weird, huh?
It is like you are working so hard to keep the bad thing going and putting way too much effort into something that gives you pain. How does it make any sense??? It is a bit masochistic, don’t you think?
Ask yourself this: who exactly do I love here and why?
Why do you love a person who hurts you every day? Do you associate pain and distance with love? Is this something that feels familiar to you? If so, then where did this familiarity and the twisted image of love come from? Did you have a cold and distant parent who you knew ‘loved’ you?
Do they remind you of your distant parent? Do they exhibit the same behavioral patterns? Attention twice a month does not qualify as ‘love’. Is this what was happening when you were growing up? Attention twice a month and lame presents on holidays?
Do you love yourself as much as you love them? Do you give yourself attention, time, and love too? How much? And, what exactly did they do to deserve your love and devotion?
Wake up. The writing is on the wall. Stop kidding yourself. Get out of the fog. When a rabbit craps hot lava, it is obvious, isn't it?
We both know the answer.
When they keep coming back, knocking on the door, and you keep letting them in – then who do you have to blame? Who do you blame for letting them hurt you, manipulate and gaslight you? Who??
Why do you keep blaming them?? You don’t have a say here at all?
You let them in every time they knock on that door. Every single time. Who is to blame?
They know the right words to say and the right look to give to sneak back into your living room, right on the couch, to do their deed, you know... to keep you addicted.
As you can see, there are a lot of questions to answer. The whole charade should be your wake-up call. It says something about YOU.
You have a problem and you are the problem. A big one. Fix the problem so you would never have to deal with it again.
Changing locks is hard, but it is the only option to keep them away from your living room.
Not fixing is your choice too, but then please do not blame the jerk who juggles two women for not giving you the love you think you deserve.
It is not that he does not love you. You do not love yourself. Period.
You need to work on self-love, self-esteem, and boundaries. It is very doable. I know it is. I have been there. Some of my friends were there too. It is life. Happens all the time.
Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. You deserve better.
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