I just ended a 9 year affair with my married man.
It has been brutal. The lies about leaving his wife over and over and empty words, lack of communication, accountability and respect for me just fried me.

I went back to my addiction (him) many times. This time though when he again said he would call and didn’t after multiple days, I had finally had it.

This time was different. I woke up not crying for the first time. I told him never to contact me again unless he had proof of divorce. I know he will never do it. He has respected this so far snd has not responded.

It has been such a long journey dumping my selfish, pity party addiction. I know there may be rough days ahead but after many failed attempts I have now found the strength to get rid of him. I no longer have urges to reach out like I did in the past.

Fortunately, I also have an amazing therapist.

To all the women out there stuck with their married men, please know you are not alone. Keep trying to dump the loser. Get help. If you fail don’t give up and don’t blame yourself. Remember you love a fake liar, coward, non-man, someone who has zero respect for you and you are in love with the idea of what he could be. The fantasy. The addiction.

I deserve better than his shitty breadcrumbs and so do you.

There are other women to talk to. Get therapy to work through your attachment injuries.

Thank you so much for instilling confidence and helping us stuck in the vicious cycle these narcissists feed on, empower us to leave them.