Passive men

Passive men

Have you ever met a great guy who made you do all the work in a relationship? How did it make you feel? Are you currently involved with this kind of a guy? Are you, to put it mildly, FRUSTRATED?!?

Passive Man

~ Will let you make all the decisions in your relationship
~ You will be the one working on your relationship
~ Usually stays with the same employer for many years
~ Has little to no friends
~ There is a high probability that he is an Introvert (I)
~ Could score high on (P)
~ You  are the one 'making things happen' in your relationship
~ He could be a nice guy.

~ You are both in love, but you feel like you are the one, who will have to... propose.

Now, before we move forward with our strategy (it is - if you still want him to be yours) let us eliminate several variables.


Before giving him a 'true passive man' label:

~ Make sure he is not involved with someone else. In this case he is just passively accepting your tokens of attention. He is satisfied with his current relationship or at least is not looking to change anything, and having some attention on the side is like a massage to his ego.
~ Does he have a low interest level?  His take it or leave it attitude should raise a red flag for you - the kind of red flag that has a 'one-sided relationship' sign on it.

So, if your passive man has passed the screening test you know now that, you are indeed dealing with a 'true passive man' and YOU STILL WANT HIM.

Well, I have good news and bad news for you: The good news is that yes, you can get him. The bad news is - you will have to do all the work.

If he is the man of your dreams and you want him to be yours, all you have to do is: EVERYTHING.

EVERYTHING: Initiating most of the calls, suggesting to meet, planning your dates here and there, reminding him of your b-day and plan your Valentine's Day outings. If he becomes more interested and committed he may pick up some slack, but do not count on it too much. After dating for about 12-24 months casually suggest to get married; since he values your opinion, he will go along with your plans.

This is going to be your job, ladies, and there is no other way around it.

If you are an outgoing extrovert (E), you will enjoy the process. If you are a judger (J), who loves to plan and being in charge of everything, you will enjoy the experience as well. On the opposite side, if you are an introvert (I), you may get tired of initiating all or most of the phone calls. Initiating contact is something that Introverts (I) perceive as hard work, something that is not part of their personality. Introverts prefer to be contacted and to listen (vs. extroverts (E), who prefer to initiate contact and talk about themselves). The same about perceivers (P) - getting a passive man requires strategy and planning and these

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are not (P's)' strengths. This is not to say that other personalities will be unsuccessful, it is that for extroverts(E) and / or judgers(J) these kind of tasks will come naturally and with a less of an effort. More on personality types and compatibility here.

INTERESTING OBSERVATION: Think of all the couples you know. You may discover that it is the mellow, quiet (read - 'passive') men that USUALLY end up with extroverted, loving to be in charge, high energy women.

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