If you feel sad about not having a boyfriend
If you currently don’t have a boyfriend and are feeling sad about it, then I think you are just looking at only one side of the coin. How about the other side? Did you try to flip it over and see what is there, and what story it tries to tell you?
At first glance, it is easy to get sad and depressed over having no boyfriend, especially if everybody else you know is in a
relationship already. Their happy and sunny stories of them enjoying each other’s company is not something that could possibly make YOUR day, and although, you may feel like you could be happy for them you do not see how such news is supposed to make YOU happy. Given your current state of mind, is there anything you could be happy about anyway?
Well, the other side of the coin is this - you shouldfeel happy FOR YOURSELF for not having to deal with all the drama others are dealing with while in a relationship already.
You will never believe how much grief, problems, and toxicity people in relationships are dealing with on a daily basis. Ever heard of stories of happy looking couples quietly breaking up after several months or years of being together? Do you know why they did what they did? Would you like to be in their place?
You see, perhaps seeing a couple on the street holding hands may
remind you of what is missing in your life, but you immediately need to realize that there is the other side of the coin, the side which is telling you, that you have no idea what is going on between the two of them. Your sadness and loneliness are based on the fact that you are not in a ‘HAPPY’ relationship. But what makes you think, that if you were to find a boyfriend today, you would immediately start feeling HAPPY tomorrow?
After an initial rush of first dates (provided he will not disappear on you) you will be faced with common issues many women in relationships do:
These are examples of real issues that take place every day in many romantic relationships. What do you think about such a bouquet of problems? Even if you mentally throw it away in the garbage, it will still continue staring at you, breathing down your neck, reminding of what you WILL have to deal with once in a relationship.
Not trying to be pessimistic or overly negative here, just REALISTIC. If you have ever been in a relationship before, then you know exactly what I am talking about. There is no such a thing as an ideal relationship, there will always be something in it to upset you or make you feel lonely and unloved. This is true, it is very possible to feel lonely and unloved when in a relationship.
So, if I were to say something like this, how would you like it: No Boyfriend = No Relationship Issues!
If you are currently single and have no boyfriend, it means you are absolutely free from anything and everything that those, who are in relationships already, have to deal with on a regular basis.
It also means, that you could take your time to reflect on your previous relationships and take mental notes of mistakes you made, crossed boundaries you should not have crossed, and other undesirable elements you would rather avoid in the future.
You may also want to take a closer look at the reasons why they didn't work out or the ending of every relationship you have had, and see if you are stuck in a pattern of picking a certain type of a man.
If you keep picking the same type of a man every relationship will be destined to play out AND end in the same manner as all your previous ones. You can break this pattern by 1) becoming aware of it and 2) avoiding this exact type of a man. This time ladies, you do not want to have JUST a boyfriend, you want to have a GOOD boyfriend!
And you cannot find a good boyfriend if you feel DESPERATE. Acting desperate is like being a starving homeless stranger who will devour anything you will put into his
begging palm. He will eat anything you will offer because he does not know when his next meal will come!
If you are desperate for having a boyfriend, then there is a high chance you may end up dating someone who is not compatible with you or not looking for a girlfriend. This article will teach you how to find a boyfriend: Online dating – how to find a boyfriend. Because of desperation you may start also ignoring red flags, putting up with disrespectful behavior, being afraid to stand up for yourself out of fear of losing him, and having other relationship issues you were hoping you would never have with your next boyfriend. Acting desperate will bring you to square one, and you will end up with yet another dysfunctional, unsatisfying, and unhappy relationship AGAIN!
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