Are you his booty call?

Are you his booty call?

Are you his just a booty call woman or is there something more to this? A booty call is a woman who provides free intimate services to a particular man. Her cell phone number is a free ‘hot-line' number for him to call in case he wants to get 'some'. There is no dating or relationship involved. Think about this unfair and hurtful (for YOU) arrangement for a moment:

He gets:
~ Physical satisfaction with no commitment (He lies about the commitment part. Keeping your services without a relationship present is already a challenge he has to deal with, but openly stating about having no commitment on the top of that would push you over the edge and make you stop seeing him... AND HE KNOWS THIS! Therefore, the ‘commitment’ and ‘no dating others’ words, coming out of his mouth, are empty and meaningless)
~ Freedom to date other people (Yes, he dates other people. See my explanation above)
~ His urges are satisfied at any time he wishes
~ He is happy with the arrangement, and that is why he does not want to change anything
~ His ego is inflated  - 'she wants me no matter what'
~ The arrangement is on his terms

You get:
~ Bruised self esteem - you settled for less than you want - 'maybe I am not good enough to have a full fledged relationship with a man'

~ You are hoping that things will change, and one day your status will be upgraded from a 'hookup' girl to a 'girlfriend'
~ You have troubles trusting him
~ You have anxiety about him finding 'The One' and dumping you because deep down you know, that if you were his 'The One', he wouldn't be treating you like this.
~ You think you are in a relationship meanwhile he thinks it's just physical
~ You feel insecure, used, and wondering if there is something wrong with you, with him, or the entire arrangement

If you are in this kind of arrangement, ask yourself this question: "Why am I doing this to myself?"

YOU DO REALIZE THAT DEEP DOWN THIS MAN HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU?

Yes, we do see and hear occasional stories of such ladies ending up being girlfriends or even wives. When the relationship is organic, it evolves over time, and if this is your case you will sense that things are moving forward and progressing. In this case I say yes, there is a change of something bigger happening. But if you have been his satisfaction on demand lady for over a year and things are just plain stale, you need to make a move. Demanding a relationship at this point would fail miserably. He has gotten so used to seeing you in a certain way (if you know what I mean), that it would be impossible to change that convoluted, selfish mindset of his. Your best bet would be to LEAVE.

Do not feel bad about leaving!  Not every man is capable of sustaining this kind of arrangement nor is seeking to be in such an arrangement. Those who have hook up girls tend to possess below average IQ levels and are unable to enjoy the benefits of a normal and healthy relationship with a woman. In some way, when it comes to relationships, they are handicapped; I almost feel sorry for them!

I have yet to meet a woman on this planet, who would prefer a ca-
sual hookup over a romantic date with a man of her dreams. The kind of a man, who makes her feel very special and like 'The One'.

You are his casual hookup girl, you are not his special lady, and you are NOT HIS 'THE ONE'. Related reading - Articles: Are you dating someone who doesn’t want a relationship with you?Is a friends with benefits relationship right for you? and Be done with your dead-end relationship!

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